Korean aging society: Growing Old Together

Wondanggol and Pungsu Jiri

From Goyang to Rotterdam, the silver wave is rising. Korea now ages rapidly; the Netherlands follows not far behind. Behind the numbers sits a deeper question: how do we remain connected, dignified, and engaged — even in old age? This challenge reflects the realities of the Korean aging society. The Jijang Fractal illustrates the interconnectedness of aging societies.

In Korea, answers often grow from community and ritual; in the Netherlands, from welfare and healthcare systems. Perhaps the real key is what binds us: compassion — and the realization that being old is not an ending, but a phase full of meaning. Insights like these also resonate with my reflections in The Koreans and I.

A World in Menopause

Bird flying over mountains — symbol of transition and uncertainty, A World in Menopause
A bird over the mountains — symbol of a world in transition.

I look out over a world stuck in transition, while I feel the beginning of something new. It’s as if I’m on a mountaintop, watching values, systems, and certainties expire. Growth exists, but it feels like the convulsions of an old model. Inflation and interest swing like mood shifts; what felt secure yesterday can feel like a panic attack today.

The planet has a fever; the poles melt like forgotten ice cubes. Climate meetings resemble therapy sessions caught in vague intentions. Fossil habits collide with green ideals, and the clock keeps ticking.

Power drifts. The U.S. ages; China moves with middle-aged confidence; Russia smolders like a bitter ex; Europe strains in the middle. And South Korea? High-tech and self-aware — facing the North, the silver wave, and the question: must we pretend to be young, or may we grow older on our own terms? The Netherlands, pragmatic and small, tries to adjust the thermostat in a house on fire.

And wars flare like pain in the body: Ukraine, Gaza, Sudan — old conflicts in new disguise. Dear reader, I’m not exaggerating. I’m paying attention. These reflections tie back to the cultural shifts I once explored in Journey to the West.

From Baedagol to Wondanggol

Map showing walking route (3–4 km) from the old Baedagol Theme Park to the new Wondanggol garden in Goyang-si, Korea.
Walking route from Baedagol to the new Wondanggol garden in Goyang.

The journey from the old Baedagol Theme Park to the new Wondanggol garden is more than symbolic. It is a short walk of just 3–4 kilometers through Goyang-si, yet it represents a much greater transition: from childhood play to senior reflection, from noise to silence, from history to renewal. This path between Baedagol and Wondanggol shows how Korean culture weaves continuity into change.

Both Kim Young Soo and I feel this is not a time to do nothing. His original Baedagol theme park — a meeting place for children, animals, and living history — had to stop at its first site. Now, the new Baedagol grows in Wondanggol: a garden of rest and reflection for seniors, a place of plants, peace, and care.

The Jijang Fractal

I think of a poem I wrote in 2004 — first published on Mantifang and later revisited during my pilgrimage to Bogwangsa:

Human Nature

Qi rides the wind and scatters.
But not when she meets water.
Then she shatters and becomes wind,
rises and becomes a cloud.
If she is angry, it thunders.
Falling, it becomes rain.
Underground she becomes Qi again.
The Pungsu Jiri qi arises from the wind.
Thick or thin, but certainly invisible,
she imbues man with nature.

The Jijang Fractal offers a way to hold suffering and connection across time: a pattern where choices ripple through a network of lives, not as fate but as potential — compassion iterating until clarity appears.

Kim Young Soo and the Jijang Fractal

Oak tree at the new Baedagol garden in Wondanggol, Goyang — symbol of endurance and renewal, with ongoing construction in the background.
The oak tree at the new Baedagol in Wondanggol, Goyang.

The oak in Korea often symbolizes endurance — slow growth, strength, and long life. Villages speak of namu-shin, tree spirits and ancestral guardians. Such symbols bridge the visible and the spiritual.

The Jijang Fractal did not appear to me in isolation. It was in Korea, through its culture of ritual, nature, and quiet resilience, that the pattern first revealed itself. Without the gardens of Baedagol and the generosity of Kim Young Soo, I might have missed it. My study and creativity as a writer shaped the words, but the insight itself was born from Korean soil. In that sense, the Jijang Fractal is not only my discovery — it is also a gift of Korea’s culture, and of the friendship that helped me see how compassion and interconnection take root in daily life.

“True virtue is to serve quietly, with no thought of reward, yet with the whole heart.” To create a place where others can rest is the highest form of service. Such a place gives the silver wave enough energy to support those who come after us — grandchildren, neighbors, students, colleagues, community. They will inherit our exhausted earth; every gesture of care may tip the scale.

Of Food, Gardens, and Quiet Service

Baedagol Bakery in Wondanggol, Goyang — entrance decorated with hydrangeas and pine trees, symbol of community and compassion.
Baedagol Bakery in Wondanggol, Goyang — a place of food, care, and togetherness.

In Korea, food is more than sustenance. “밥 먹었어요?” — “Have you eaten rice?” — carries the care of generations that knew hunger. It is not formality; it is belonging. Baedagol Bakery in Goyang-si has that spirit: warm, generous, unhurried — a counterbalance to a faster Seoul.

A well-set table nourishes the body; a blooming garden nourishes the soul. Together, they make us whole.

My Place in the Fractal

The garden may be very Korean, but the desserts are European. Cream cakes and sugar — new flavors charming the Korean tongue. When I first came to Korea, bread was rare; now that Kim Young Soo bakes it, I am no longer allowed to eat it. Diabetes (type 2) asks for a stricter path: sugar-free, salt-free. After a severe hypo — ambulance and all — I set myself a regimen most would find joyless. Luckily, I have a Korean past.

While Baedagol serves cream cakes, I experiment with Jijang kombu sauce — with chicken and stir-fried vegetables — a dish even his wife would enjoy. I keep writing my book and helping Mickey care for the grandchildren. They grow up in a world in menopause. In their eyes I hear the silent question: give me the tools to restore this world.

If you’re in the mood for some pastries and want to enjoy the beautiful garden: Baedagol Bakery House155-3 Wondang-dong, Deogyang-gu Goyang-si.

Jijang Fractal — eyes as symbol of compassion, Korean aging society

That is the difference: my old age brings limits; the mess we leave is worse. Still, as long as we breathe, we can set the Fractal wheel in motion — like Kim Young Soo, who with trees, flowers, and bread quietly helps the world heal. Perhaps not grand — but enough to say: we still can. These reflections echo themes I first touched upon in Song of the Mantifang.

Closing

Two little ones walking forward towards the future, with the Buddha quietly present in the shadow — symbol of compassion and unseen guidance.
Two little ones walking forward towards the future — with the Buddha quietly present in the shadow.

Oh drop of water belonging to the grey wave — keep the Jijang Fractal in mind and start helping the little ones to create a world warm, generous, and unhurried. A place like the renewed Baedagol theme park, breathing in Wondanggol, South Korea.

As the little ones walk forward towards the future, even the shadows reveal more than we expect. In the outline of a Buddha in shade, and in the statue further down the path, presence becomes visible. The Jijang Fractal teaches that what seems hidden still shapes us — quietly, patiently, and with compassion.

These words close the circle, yet remain open — just as in Bogwansa, the story continues through memory, compassion, and renewal.

© Mantifang — Essays.

Korean gardening: the gods are praised.

 written by Hugo J. Smal

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On the 11th of February, 2008, Sungnyemun, Sungnyemun, the Southern Gate, from Seoul burned down. King Yi T’aejo (1335 – 1408), the founder of the Choson Kingdom, had this gate built around 1400. He also constructed the Kyon Gyeongbokgung Palace. These days you can see the fruit of Korean gardening there.
The purpose of this gate was not only to stop Japanese robbers. It also provided spiritual happiness and prosperity, absolute standards of Korean Gardening.

Emphasis on naturalistic beauty.

[:en]Wonderful wander: the Secret Garden in Changdeokgung, Seoul © Chinnaphong Mungsiri / Getty[:]
Wonderful wander: the Secret Garden in Changdeokgung, Seoul © Chinnaphong Mungsiri / Getty
For two thousand years, Koreans have been constructing beautiful gardens meant to bring the harmony of the natural world into man-made spaces. These gardens range from majestic gardens situated in royal palaces to humble courtyard gardens in traditional hanok-style family homes.

Korean gardens are distinguished from their Chinese and Japanese cousins by a deep emphasis on naturalistic beauty, a direct influence of the Korean philosophy of hermitism. To achieve this natural beauty,  gardens take into account architecture, water, stone, and open space to create a sense of unlikely balance that isn’t forced or artificial. The most common features of Korean gardens grow out of these elements and include architectural pavilions and central reflecting ponds.

A lot of the Koreans still believe in all those influences of the gods. And the gate is rebuilt. It is their national pride and the Pungsu-jiri (풍수지리 is held in honour, as are the influences of the different religions described below.  it’s splendid again

Chôngwon (정원) Korean Gardening

The Korean word for a garden is a combination of two Chinese characters. Chông 정, the first character, indicates a garden surrounded by buildings or walls. Chong divides gardens into a palace, official, temple and regular. This is according to the function of the building. Korean architectures divide the common garden into the front or back garden, indoor or outdoor, middle garden or for example a gate or stair garden. This is also according to the location.

Korean GardeningWon 원, the second character, means hill or wide field with forests. With this character, the garden rises above the garden surrounded by buildings or walls. The composition of the two characters thus means a small garden, but also a park complex or a naturally designed park.

Trees look in.

The essence of Korean gardening is the natural landscape with hills, streams, and fields. The landscape is not separated by walls or other boundaries. The Korean gardener builds walls to let trees look over them.
The environment is allowed in the garden. The nature within the walls is not forced into a straitjacket like in Japan. The Korean garden is natural and therefore calming.
Nature is perfect in Korean philosophy. Therefore, the Hanguk takes great care in human intervention. Interference is almost seen as violent. The idea behind Korean garden culture is to make nature appear more natural than nature itself. Where the Japanese shape nature, the Koreans will shape in nature.

Korean gardening is a fusion.

With the word fusion, the Korean garden culture is appointed in one blow. In contrast to the one-sided, humanistic-Christian background of the Europeans, the Hanguk culture consists of a mixture of many settings: all of them from their ancient religious history.

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Doltap

Tangun (the sandalwood king) is seen as the mythical founder of Korea, 4326 years ago. He descended to Pyongyang, where he founded an empire: Chosön, the country of the morning calm.
This is a myth with a clearly shamanistic character, in which the fusion of cosmos, earth, gods, people, animals, and plants takes place. Shamanism knows many gods and spirits. These live in the landscape but also in the basement, the kitchen or in the attic. In the event of illness or other adversity, many Korean people still visit the Mudang

Natural shrines.

Also, the piling of stones, Doltap (돌탑 ), stems from this natural belief. It is a common practice in Korea to place a foundation stone on the side of the road. Another finder contributes to his or her part. This way the most beautiful pagodas arise spontaneously along the way, but also at a Buddhist shrine or for example a waterfall. They are saving natural shrines, in which everyone cooperates. And the most beautiful thing … nobody kicks them over.

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Pragmatic focus

Confucianism is the second religious belief that is a part of the Korean gardening philosophy. This focuses mainly on the life of man in this world. The relationships between people. Hence very pragmatic indeed.

Korean gardening in palace.
Yi dynasty beauty. The building washing his feet.

Confucianism, originating in ancient China, places a strong emphasis on harmony, order, and moral rectitude. In Korean gardens, this influence is seen in the careful balance and symmetry often present in garden layouts. Gardens were designed to reflect the Confucian ideals of harmony between man and nature, and the orderly arrangement of paths, water features, and plants often mirrors the structured societal hierarchy promoted by Confucianism. Learn about the role Confucianism plays in Korea today here.

Neo-Confucianism

It is highly influential in Korea during the Joseon Dynasty, further developed these ideas. It emphasizes self-cultivation and a deepened understanding of one’s relationship with the universe. Korean gardens from this period often feature scholar’s rocks and carefully curated views, which encourage contemplation and intellectual reflection. The gardens are not just for aesthetic pleasure but also serve as spaces for meditation and personal growth, in line with Neo-Confucian values.

Both philosophies contributed to the development of Korean gardens as spaces where ethical and philosophical contemplation could be pursued amidst natural beauty. The result is a garden culture that not only emphasizes aesthetic appeal but also intellectual and moral depth.

Great influence on Korean Gardening.

 Also Buddhism has significantly influenced Korean garden culture, embodying principles of harmony, balance, and simplicity. These gardens often promote contemplation and meditation, reflecting the Buddhist pursuit of peace and inner tranquility. Elements like water, stones, and meticulously arranged vegetation are central, symbolizing the natural world and Buddhist teachings. Symbolism is key, with certain plants and structures representing spiritual concepts from Buddhism. This results in serene, naturalistic gardens that are not just visually appealing, but also spiritually meaningful.

No conflict.

In Korea, there was no conflict between religions. They simply exist side by side. Later, the Jesuits brought Christ. This Western saviour also got his place. The Korean culture only grew richer. Many Koreans choose a very down-to-earth starting point for faith. They just pray to everyone. If one does not help, one may expect more benefit from the other.

The saint set his spade.

It is therefore not surprising that you find Confucian symbolism in Buddhist temples, while shamanic gods keep watch. Therefore the fusion between four big worlds religions. Where in the west the rich ruled the garden culture, for example with the exorbitant Versailles, in Korea the saint set his spade in the ground. The European monks came no further than the herb garden. Those in the Far East succeeded in creating true garden art.

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Korean gardening means the outside is looking in.
Outside looking in.

Human environment.

Korean garden architecture is holistic. According to the dictionary, Holism is the view that there is a connection in reality. Hence the whole is not found in the components.
The Korean garden culture, for example, combines Chong and Won, building a human environment that combines well with the world of nature. It is respecting both nature and human values.
Korean gardening is the art of creating an outdoor space with ecological values, functional and practical. It gives more value to ecology than to scientific disciplines such as technology and architecture.

Korean gardening incorporates the mythical.

The Korean garden differs from the formal garden. In the latter, visual beauty is sought. The beauty of the Korean garden arises from a complex, spiritual and mythical beauty. This is captured by the spirit and its five senses: sight, smell. hearing, taste, and feeling.
This is not the beauty, for example, found in the Japanese garden. Captured by planting and materials. The Korean garden has an organic beauty that changes in space and time. It relies on the elements and on materials used.

Korean gardening is natural.
Korean gardening is natural.

Compulsions of nature.

It is not only external beauty but also a manifestation of cosmic principles such as fragility, sound, contrasts between light and dark and dry and wet. In the distant past, the Koreans build about a thousand public gardens. Not by specialists, but by the garden owners themselves. They knew the working of nature through their own gardens, usually described as natural gardens.
These gardens acted as intermediaries between the compulsions of nature and the needs of man. It is strange that Korean garden culture is not discovered by the rest of the world. The Chinese garden gets attention, while the Japanese are a real hype.

See what happens in the Korean garden.

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